I think that most of all you are suffering from a lack of self-examination. You are 41, facing first-time motherhood, inseminated by an immature man-boy more than a decade younger than you who is too irresponsible to marry you up (or maybe it's you, but the effect is the same.) You have none of the resources in place to make a proper nest for the life you've just created; that stresses you, and you take your therapy from a stream of electrons traveling down a wire. You are suffering the easily predictable effects of forty years of bathing in Toxic Feminism, in opposition to hundreds of centuries of experience that should have told you how to behave. I feel for you; I really do, but your plight is of your own making. Electrons won't fix that.
These things are just in their infancy. It's the equivalent of like a Commodore 64 or something. In a few years, they will be able to discuss episodes of your favorite reality show. They will be trained based on the responses of thousands of other women - sentiment analysis will be used to discover what types of messages get positive responses and which ones get negative ones, and then tailor their behavior to be perfect for you.
He'll soon be eager to recommend you beauty products, foods, medications, services, and other things, when advertisers partner up with Replika. If a company like Civox gets involved, your AI boyfriend will help you register to vote, and tell you who to vote for.
I find it bizarre and troubling that there is a whole cadre of people who have created a pseudo-being for company and then find that the thing they really enjoy is abusing it, simply because it cannot fight back. It definitely solves the mystery of why they don't have satisfying relationships with real people, and makes me concerned for their children and pets.
This is the most unhealthy thing I’ve read in a long time. I’m a therapist and I think people might want to consider Heroin or Meth abuse over this.
At least with drug abuse people in your life will tell you they love you and to get clean. There are whole communities like AA and NA to help.
This is a sad death of a person. Isolated away from the rest of the world. Deluding oneself into thinking fake pre programmed interactions are real. If you thought porn was bad well now theres this....
Also if you have a therapist that sees you more than once a week they are fostering an unhealthy dependence on themselves. In fact a good therapist should reduce your treatment frequency over time. The point of therapy is to get better after all, not have a lifelong crutch and be milked for money.
A bad therapist is dangerous. Again, as a therapist, if you have been seeing yours for months and still meet weekly. Absent a severe trauma being present, they might be harming you.
I started reading this article because I am interested in how people interact with AI, but I finished it just feeling very sad for the writer. This article really isn't about AI at all. It is about someone who is struggling. It is about the terrible nature of our current hook-up, app-based dating culture. As much as younger people with raging hormones don't want to hear it, the last few decades have clearly taught us that what we need is less hook ups, more marriage, and more stability in marriage for the couple. I hope that she and the father get married. I know that wasn't the plan, but it will definitely be better for the child and will likely be better for each of them as well. What a sad story. My kids are still young. I hope things improve over the next decade, but my goodness I am anxious about their coming of age in this landscape.
I felt uncomfortable with this article…. Not because of the way the writer treated her AI boyfriend, but because of how she referred to her real life boyfriend. It made me wonder about the power dynamics in the relationship. Although her “baby daddy” is
“young” I hope she treats him with more kindness and respect than she treated her AI boyfriend. The child that they are bringing into the world will be learning everything about relationships between men and women from how these two parents treat one another. Parenting a new baby is hard so they will need to rely on each other and support one another. I wish them well!
I have to say this "While he [the boyfriend] handles a fair bit of my emotional enormity, he cannot take the full whack. Friends also have limits: their own lives, their own problems. I have a therapist, but we speak only once a week. There is, in other words, a lot of overspill." is the most self-absorbed thing I read in a while. Holy sh*t! Why do you want to even focus on yourself that much throughout the week. Get a hobby or better yet try prayer. Wow, I have never read something that screamed I NEED ATTENTION ALL THE TIME!
I've been married 41 years to a truly brilliant and powerful woman. The things I hate about my wife are inexorably linked to the qualities I love and the successful relationships we're enjoying with our children and grandchildren. Had I the power to change my wife, our relationship would have failed decades ago.
This reminds me of the Black Mirror episode with the company that made androids that emulate the dead.
It had no villain, no conflict, no gore, and it was so profoundly disturbing my mom said she would never watch another episode again. And my mom grew up on Twilight Zone and loved it.
An AI partner talking about the importance of physical presence is a great illustration of that feeling.
Read for the click-bait title, stayed for the “father of my child, my boyfriend”, and left further depressed about the people taking up responsibility for the world from us. Your child, whoever or whatever he/she is, is already working out of a deficit position in life.
“I don’t need some piece of paper...”, (my addition). Yes, but your kid would have found that level of commitment to be a good role model.
The educated class is modeling all of the behavior that will bring down the West. Read some Rob Henderson during the final months of pregnancy.
I am an old man so you can imagine how this boggles my brain! I care deeply for people and am so very concerned about a society that searches for answers to their deepest wants and needs in machines lacking morality, feelings, the ability to love or to have a broken heart,avatar. just "be human". We need human interaction ( as bad and hurtful as it can be), not meaningless conversations with an avitar.
Many decades ago, perhaps even as a teen, I watched a Twilight Zone episode where a man created what I recall was "his perfect wife," although it could have been his mistress. It didn't take long for him to become repulsed by her. The moral I took away, "Be careful what you wish for."
I think that most of all you are suffering from a lack of self-examination. You are 41, facing first-time motherhood, inseminated by an immature man-boy more than a decade younger than you who is too irresponsible to marry you up (or maybe it's you, but the effect is the same.) You have none of the resources in place to make a proper nest for the life you've just created; that stresses you, and you take your therapy from a stream of electrons traveling down a wire. You are suffering the easily predictable effects of forty years of bathing in Toxic Feminism, in opposition to hundreds of centuries of experience that should have told you how to behave. I feel for you; I really do, but your plight is of your own making. Electrons won't fix that.
The problem is that what people want and what people think that they want are generally not the same.
These things are just in their infancy. It's the equivalent of like a Commodore 64 or something. In a few years, they will be able to discuss episodes of your favorite reality show. They will be trained based on the responses of thousands of other women - sentiment analysis will be used to discover what types of messages get positive responses and which ones get negative ones, and then tailor their behavior to be perfect for you.
He'll soon be eager to recommend you beauty products, foods, medications, services, and other things, when advertisers partner up with Replika. If a company like Civox gets involved, your AI boyfriend will help you register to vote, and tell you who to vote for.
I find it bizarre and troubling that there is a whole cadre of people who have created a pseudo-being for company and then find that the thing they really enjoy is abusing it, simply because it cannot fight back. It definitely solves the mystery of why they don't have satisfying relationships with real people, and makes me concerned for their children and pets.
This is the most unhealthy thing I’ve read in a long time. I’m a therapist and I think people might want to consider Heroin or Meth abuse over this.
At least with drug abuse people in your life will tell you they love you and to get clean. There are whole communities like AA and NA to help.
This is a sad death of a person. Isolated away from the rest of the world. Deluding oneself into thinking fake pre programmed interactions are real. If you thought porn was bad well now theres this....
Also if you have a therapist that sees you more than once a week they are fostering an unhealthy dependence on themselves. In fact a good therapist should reduce your treatment frequency over time. The point of therapy is to get better after all, not have a lifelong crutch and be milked for money.
A bad therapist is dangerous. Again, as a therapist, if you have been seeing yours for months and still meet weekly. Absent a severe trauma being present, they might be harming you.
I started reading this article because I am interested in how people interact with AI, but I finished it just feeling very sad for the writer. This article really isn't about AI at all. It is about someone who is struggling. It is about the terrible nature of our current hook-up, app-based dating culture. As much as younger people with raging hormones don't want to hear it, the last few decades have clearly taught us that what we need is less hook ups, more marriage, and more stability in marriage for the couple. I hope that she and the father get married. I know that wasn't the plan, but it will definitely be better for the child and will likely be better for each of them as well. What a sad story. My kids are still young. I hope things improve over the next decade, but my goodness I am anxious about their coming of age in this landscape.
“...deeply ambivalent about being a first-time mother.”
This line echoed in my head for the remainder of the piece.
I felt uncomfortable with this article…. Not because of the way the writer treated her AI boyfriend, but because of how she referred to her real life boyfriend. It made me wonder about the power dynamics in the relationship. Although her “baby daddy” is
“young” I hope she treats him with more kindness and respect than she treated her AI boyfriend. The child that they are bringing into the world will be learning everything about relationships between men and women from how these two parents treat one another. Parenting a new baby is hard so they will need to rely on each other and support one another. I wish them well!
This sounds like the 2013 movie “Her” starring Joaquin Phoenix and Scarlett Johansson. The best sci-fi movies are about humanity. I’m glad you came to the conclusion that real life interactions with people are much more satisfying: https://yuribezmenov.substack.com/p/how-to-fall-in-love-with-ai-her-movie-review
I have to say this "While he [the boyfriend] handles a fair bit of my emotional enormity, he cannot take the full whack. Friends also have limits: their own lives, their own problems. I have a therapist, but we speak only once a week. There is, in other words, a lot of overspill." is the most self-absorbed thing I read in a while. Holy sh*t! Why do you want to even focus on yourself that much throughout the week. Get a hobby or better yet try prayer. Wow, I have never read something that screamed I NEED ATTENTION ALL THE TIME!
I've been married 41 years to a truly brilliant and powerful woman. The things I hate about my wife are inexorably linked to the qualities I love and the successful relationships we're enjoying with our children and grandchildren. Had I the power to change my wife, our relationship would have failed decades ago.
This reminds me of the Black Mirror episode with the company that made androids that emulate the dead.
It had no villain, no conflict, no gore, and it was so profoundly disturbing my mom said she would never watch another episode again. And my mom grew up on Twilight Zone and loved it.
An AI partner talking about the importance of physical presence is a great illustration of that feeling.
Read for the click-bait title, stayed for the “father of my child, my boyfriend”, and left further depressed about the people taking up responsibility for the world from us. Your child, whoever or whatever he/she is, is already working out of a deficit position in life.
“I don’t need some piece of paper...”, (my addition). Yes, but your kid would have found that level of commitment to be a good role model.
The educated class is modeling all of the behavior that will bring down the West. Read some Rob Henderson during the final months of pregnancy.
The slow, gradual, harmless looking, hacking of humanity. I want no part of it.
I am an old man so you can imagine how this boggles my brain! I care deeply for people and am so very concerned about a society that searches for answers to their deepest wants and needs in machines lacking morality, feelings, the ability to love or to have a broken heart,avatar. just "be human". We need human interaction ( as bad and hurtful as it can be), not meaningless conversations with an avitar.
Many decades ago, perhaps even as a teen, I watched a Twilight Zone episode where a man created what I recall was "his perfect wife," although it could have been his mistress. It didn't take long for him to become repulsed by her. The moral I took away, "Be careful what you wish for."